30 Days of Women: Julia Molier
My story of Julia is one that will stay with me for the rest of my life.
She came into my life as fast as she came and the impact was profound.
Julia was a couch surfer from Toulouse who had been staying in Houston for the last 5 months.
Chicago, was her last stop before heading out of the country.
The first night she came in we went to a good friends housewarming party.
We drank, we laughed, smiled and genuinely connected. After a few hours we were sitting outside and while looking at her I remember feeling the most overwhelming desire that I've ever had with another woman. It wasn't lust or anything like that, it was a love that I hadn't ever experienced in that manor before. So, after staring at her beautiful eyes and unable to shake the desire, I finally kissed her. It only lasted a few seconds but the memory lingers still, even now.
After that day we spent the next 4 days wrapped in each others arms and minds, sharing secrets, poems and the stories that helped shape who we had grown to be. Completely entranced by Julia, I spent those days also trying to figure out a way to keep her with me. After sharing those thoughts with her she looked at me with the most loving smile and said that I didn't have to worry. "I'm coming back, Flow. When I do, you'll have me in your arms again."
To this day, i'm counting the days and hours.
As it stands, its
How old are you & where are you from?
I am 25 and I am originally from Toulouse, in the South West of France
Whats life like for you there?
Toulouse is the city I grew up in, I have my family and oldest friends over there. But I haven't really lived there for the last 6 years. So when I go back, I go back to my parents' place, catch up with my friends and settle down for a few weeks before hitting the road again. I love that city, it's familiar, but I know it too well. I get bored quickly and feel the urge to go away again, because it's nothing exciting to me, it just brings me back to my old life
What do you do for a living, do you enjoy it?
I have a degree in direction of artistic projects, I've been in this field for 5 years, organizing festivals, exhibitions... Last year I decided to move to Australia to try new things, because the arts field was the only one I knew and I was not sure I could be good at something else. Since then, I tried different jobs, like barista, barmaid, waitress or nanny. I like to do new things, to gain new skills and Australia has been amazing in that regard. But when people ask me what I do in life, I usually answer that I travel, because to me that's my main purpose
Whats a creative outlet for you and do you practice it often?
I like to think I'm a creative person. I've always been into arts. When I was younger I tried all kinds of things, like music (piano, drums), drawing, acting... 10 years ago I started practicing photography, and I stuck to that one ever since. I also did a couple of short movies. I love looking at the world and the people around me and try to capture that through my lems, with my own vision and sensibility. I do take pictures often, but sometimes the inspiration isn't here and I can spend a few weeks without taking any.
What prompted your desire to travel? -have you documented it?
-will you share it?
I am lucky enough to have parents who love traveling. Since I was born we traveled together to so many different countries for holidays. So I guess that's how it started. I discovered other places, countries and people and always knew there was more in the world than the city I was living in. When I turned 17 I started traveling by myself, and when I finished college at 24 I decided to leave France and move abroad, first in the United States where I lived for 5 months, and then to Australia, 9 months ago. I just figured that at that point in my life all my options were open and I could do anything, so I chose to discover the world. I documented my travels through photography and writing. I first thought of writing a diary, but it can sometimes be hard to find the time to write. So I decided to write a list of all the things I've done while traveling I've never done before. I keep the writing part to myself, but I created an Instagram account to post my pictures. I see it as my travel diary, both for myself and my friends and family who can follow my adventures.
Whats been you best experience?
This is very hard to answer this question. The whole experience of living abroad is amazing. I can't decide on a best one, so I'll talk about the one that was the most surprising, frightening, exhilarating and that really pushed me out of my comfort zone. In New Zealand, I went bungee jumping. I jumped from a deck into a canyon in Queenstown. I still can't believe I did that. But it was definitely one of the best experience ever. The worst one was probably the 10 days I worked as a barmaid in a country pub in a 200 people town in the Outback of Australia. The boss was exploiting us, we were working way too many hours for what we were paid, sometimes 7 hours straight with absolutely no breaks. They were only hiring young girls backpackers because the customers were almost all old Australian truck drivers who were hitting on us when they were drunk. That's why I only stayed 10 days.
As a woman traveling along have you been afraid?
-What steps have you taken to protect yourself?
No, I haven't been afraid. I actually feel more safe when I travel than in my own city/country. I think you always need to use common sense, but I think it's also important to know there are a lot of good people out there. I'm not the kind of girl who will be afraid. But still, I don't hitchhike, I don't go by myself at night to an empty part of town, I quickly turn around and move away if a guy start acting inappropriately... But I would do that anywhere. I don't think I act differently while traveling. And I've never felt threatened or in danger.
Whats been the scariest or nervous part of all the travel?
The scariest was when I locked myself in a restroom and noticed there was a redback (a deadly spider in Australia) on the door. The most nervous part was when I flew back to Australia after a month in New Zealand with only $250 left and I really needed to find a job or I'd have had to go home.
Where have you met the best people?
I met so many amazing people along the way that I really can't answer that with only one answer. I made such good friends while I was living in the States, and while traveling Australia. Each and every one of them are part of my journey and made me who I am today.
Where do you want to end up?
I have no idea. I don't wanna settle anywhere for now. You never know what life is gonna bring your way. I wanna go live in New Zealand, Canada, Japan and Argentina. Then probably gonna travel more of Europe. I can't think of staying in one place, it freaks me out. I need excitement, I need new, I need adventure.
Is it hard keeping personal relationships when traveling so much?
I'd say it's harder, but not hard. Today we have so many ways to keep in touch with people all over the world. You do have to work for it. But that's also what makes it beautiful. You meet these beautiful souls and you know you only have them next to you for a short time, so you live this moment to the fullest. You'll always have these memories. And if you really want to, you'll meet them later along the way. But if not, it doesn't take away what you had. They still left their mark on you.
Have you fallen for someone/someones while traveling?
-have any fallen for you?
Yes, I have a few times. And I know they did too. Like I said, when you travel you know you only have a certain amount of time with that person, and you know that later on you'll leave again. So it kind of takes the pressure away. It's just about the moment, right here, right now so you allow yourself to let go more easily and open up to take it all in. Of course it's hard to leave, but when you look back you see that as a precious chapter of your life and you just feel grateful you were lucky enough to experience it.
Have you ever been tempted to stay somewhere?
-what stopped you?
When I first moved to the States, at the beginning I wanted to settle down there. But after 5 months I was actually ready to leave. The next adventure was calling me. I knew I was gonna go back at some point, but it was not the time for me to stop. Not yet.
Who or what has been the most influential thing you've experienced thus far?
The language. That was one of my first motivation when moving abroad. I wanted to improve my English. It can seem silly, but it is a big change in life. I'm always surrounded by English speakers and it's the most effective way to learn. When I went back to France from the States, I kept thinking in English for a month. I love interacting with people in English. I don't speak French here, and it's a big change to communicate with people in a language that you started to learn in middle school rather than the one you've know your own life.
How often do you miss home?
I don't. I know that the place I am in my life right now makes me happier than I would ever have been back home. I am following my path, my dreams, I'm discovering the world and that's what makes me happy. Of course I miss my friends and family, but I'm always moving and meeting new people so I don't really have time to think about it that much. And I know the wait will only make the reunion better!
How has this trip helped shape influence you as a person?
It made me grow up. It changed me, on so many levels. I learned about people, about the world, I became more open minded, happier, more adventurous. I now know that I can go by myself on the other part of the world and that I'll be fine.
Any advice for other adventure seekers out there?
Let go. Because the only thing holding back is you. You don't need much. Don't over pack. Don't plan. Go with the flow. Open yourself to what surrounds you. Enjoy. Have fun. Explore. Be kind. I think the most important thing is to keep an open mind and to be willing to experience everything the world and its people has to offer. It's a gold mine that will make you richer every day.