30 Days Of Women: Mimi Ford
That picture on the right is My oldest sister, Toni, Mimi and Me
My relationship with my siblings has always been a rocky one. We've all had very different upbringings and different ideas for how we should live our lives. When I was younger my relationship with my older sister Mimi was the rockiest. We would fight, both physically and emotionally. Hurt feelings, bruised egos, and scared bodies. We never got to have the experience that so many other siblings did. Closeness and sharing secrets. Unconditional love. Truly, would say things and get under each-others skin. That fact didn't change for a very long time. Its caused great stress my mother and I think to all those around us. But there was a shift in our relationship, I cant say exactly when it happened but I can tell you the feeling I had when it did. It went from me resenting family gatherings and never wanting to come home to looking forward to catching up. Honestly, all that came from Mimi. With the birth of her daughter came a change in all of our lives. The family was no longer divided. She has that affect. Likely, she always did. She is the mediator, the levelheaded one and the most caring of us all. The lowest moment in my life, my sister came to the rescue. Shes still saving us to this day, most of the time without any of us knowing it.
Another reason why having strong women behind you is the most important thing that can happen in your life. Likely, they are the real reason you and your family are staying afloat. I know that's the case for me. -Flow Johnson
How old are you and where are you from?
31 years old and feeling it every day lol. I was born here in Milwaukee but immediately moved to the home of the Jackson until I was about 12. -where do you live now? After moving to Atlanta and Chicago for College I’ve now settled back in Milwaukee.
What's the most difficult part about your job?
Trying to not become emotionally attached. A lot of those devastating stories you guys see on the news and hear about being shot, stabbed, burned, attempted suicides, bad car accidents etc.. those are my patients. Along with the Elderly, Blind, And disabled. I can’t and don’t look at my patients as another case to get my hospital paid. I look at them as if they could be my own family and their lives are changed forever. I deal with some pretty horrible situations at work.
How has Milwaukee treated you?
Honestly Milwaukee isn’t and hasn’t been so bad to me personally. I’m happy where I am career wise and of course I do want to blossom but I can’t say I have experienced a lot of the negativity that others seem to face. -
Do you find it difficult to be a black woman in this city? It’s difficult being black anywhere these days, but Milwaukee has been ok to me.
How's it raising 2 daughters here?
It’s amazing to me, and I don’t think it has to do with where I’m raising them. We’ve always lived in some of the nicer areas so they’re not exposed to a lot of things going on in Milwaukee right now. I do answer questions that my oldest might have from things sI try as hard as I can to make sure they aren’t influenced negatively by other children. I’m not with them all the time so sometimes I do notice behaviors or inappropriate wording that I don’t like from my oldest daughter but I find it easy to let her know what’s acceptable and what’s not going to be tolerated. She understands and its usually not a repeated issue. I’m surrounded by a lot of great and positive women who are also mothers so on the rare occasion I do have some difficult times I have so many women and even men who I can call for advice.
What keeps you here?
Honestly, just my family and I’m kind of content. I have been considering moving back to Atlanta a lot lately. I’ve applied for some jobs just to see where it goes. -When/where do you plan on going? When the right opportunity presents itself I’m chunking the deuces How do you deal with your own problems, while often bearing the weight of many others? I guess I don’t and that’s a very negative thing about myself. I often put everyone’s needs and wants before my own. I just assume the people I do that for would do the same for me and that’s just really not true. I have a great heart and want everyone to be happy and it seems I have to realize I can’t help everyone and it may sound crazy but that is something I truly struggle with. I wish I didn’t care as much as I do but I do.
Who are some women in your life that inspire/motivate you?
I’m grateful to have so many of them. I’m surrounded by so many positive and influential black women I don’t even take advantage of who is around me. Im sitting here thinking I don’t have any bums around me actually. My mother of course is awesome at mostly everything she touches, her best friend Johnna is founder of Mosaic, Clarene Mitchell is another that I look up too, Even Women my age Jennifer McCaskill is one of the Sharpest young goo getters I know. I'm blessed to have a lot of people around me that are positive influences on me and my girls.
How has your family dictated the way you raise your children?
That’s an easy one I take a lot of their solicited and unsolicited advice. My parents have 8 children and 5 of us have childrenand they all were parents before me so they show me what to do and what not to do. I remember when I had Cherish and Pronte told me when she was 2 days old “Mimi don’t ever let her sleep with you.” And I swear here we are 7 years later and she refuses to get out of my bed. She comes in every night at around 2am, now shes got my 1 yr old doing it. Everyone tells me I'm doing a great job and that is always really appreciated because sometimes it’s difficult but they are always there when I need questions answered or if i'm struggling with something.
What inspires you to stay strong in light of hard situations?
My girls, they are really counting on me. It’s so many young girls out here just lost its sad.
What's your favorite thing about being a mom?
Just watching them grow everyday it’s something new with them. The fact that I was there every step of the way to see their progression makes me smile. Sometimes I find myself just staring at my oldest like wow time is flying I remember when she was a newborn. Now she’s reading and emailing.
Who's someone you can call that always makes you feel better?
My Brother Pronte
What is your funniest/ saddest memory as a kid?
Well the best moment I’ll say was when I moved from Gary Back to Milwaukee. My childhood didn’t have many great moments but was definitely full of sad moments.
Where's a place you desperately want to visit?
Bora Bora. Im kind of borderline obsessed with the place. Its just so damn pretty
How old were you the first time you fell in love?
Hmm. 21? I don’t know who really knows
What's a moment you remember, happy or sad that helped shape you into the person you are now? - It sounds Cliché but giving birth to my daughter. That motherly instinct automatically kicked in the second she was born.
Who has been the most influential male in your life?-
Again, I’m blessed not to have to sit here and ponder about this question but I have a few of them so I won’t name just one. I have my Dad George Hinton (Google him), My uncle Chip, My bestfriend Mike, and my big brother Pronte.
If you could tell your 21 year old self anything, what would it be?
Don’t you go shopping with that refund check from school LOL. Sallie Mae/Navient Totally owns my life right now.
The last 5 songs you listened to?
Kehlani- obsession Lloyd ( I know you can’t stand him) has a new one called tru, Jacquese- Pandora is in heavy rotation right now, some song with Justin beiber called let me love you, shhhhh don’t tell anyone, Trin-i-tee- 5 7- Gods grace has been played a lot
The last 5 movies you saw? Hmm I watched lethal weapon 1 for the first time ever last night, Secret life of pets with the kids, This is kind of hard I don’t watch my tv.